A day in the life

Sitting here in deep contemplation, after a hard talk with my husband. Sometimes he still gets scared of this unschooling journey we’re on. My argument remains the same; he can come to me with a solution that we all agree on, or he can educate himself on this life he accepted to almost four years ago.

Life as an unschooling parent isn’t easy! I’ve talked about this before in one of my instagram posts where this journey we’re on as a family requires a lot of trust. Trust in your children. And sometimes it’s hard to see the progress when you’re “in it” with them. It’s almost been four years, but I still feel like I’m in the trenches, still finding my feet.

And as I sit in contemplation, my oldest is right beside me- doing what he does best- designing. He’s an avid designer in Minecraft! I remember he kept telling me last year that he wanted to code his own dinosaurs in the game, and wouldn’t you know it? Facebook ads must’ve been listening because the perfect class popped up, and he’s been loving it!

But that’s not what he’s doing today, today he’s repainting some of his dinosaurs. Almost every time he asks me what he should do, I always say “I don’t know, what do you think?”. Wouldn’t you know it, I’ve been noticing that a lot of his answers to my questions are “I don’t know”. So today I mindfully reworded myself and said “I’d love to know what you want to do with this project!” He loves bouncing ideas off of me, and I love discussing with him, but I also want him to grow confidence in his own ideas.

This is what unschooling is all about- I’ve watched this kid grow so much, and he’s only 8! I can only imagine what he’ll be doing with his life when he’s older.

Of course, my husband and I want to instill some important values into our children, but in order for that to happen we need to be modeling it for them- and that’s what we shall do. This is a real day in the life- we have to have these hard conversations. We get scared, we lose trust for a beat, and that’s ok. Because we talk through it, listen to an audiobook and continue to grow as parents.